Are you wondering whether your marriage is in trouble? Learning the signs of a broken marriage can tell you what to watch out for, so you'll know when things are headed south. Let's go over some of the most common "red flags":
- The idea of spending time together stresses them out or angers them.
- They complain about each other to others frequently and in detail.
- They stop showing any affection for one another.
- They do not want to be intimate with one another anymore.
If you’ve been thinking about the state of your marriage, and wondering if it is actually broken, don’t worry. It may be that you’re just feeling a little bit stuck in a rut. If that is the case then these signs of a broken marriage may provide you some reassurance. If any one of these signs sounds familiar to you, it doesn’t necessarily mean your marriage is heading for divorce court. It does however mean this would be a good time to have a conversation with your partner about how best to navigate through the tough times and work together towards getting back on track. There are 4 signs and at least one of them will have been true if you’ve been together for a while.
A broken relationship is unlikely to be the fault of one partner. If you’re having problems, chances are it’s because the marriage isn’t working by definition! So try to separate what may be your own issues from what is really going on with your spouse. The more familiar you both are with the other person, the better your chances of understanding what is going on and coming up with a solution. You may even find that as you work harder over time to understand each other, the communication will improve and things will get better.
The love you feel for your spouse is real. While love may not always be enough to make a marriage work, it would help. You could have a sort of platonic friendship and just drift along without much in the way of communication or passion. However, when you are experiencing true love for your partner, you will likely be better able to see things from their point of view and will be more likely to make compromises for the benefit of your relationship.
You can work through difficult issues. Many couples experience difficulty with money or other related issues but don’t give up on the marriage just because they are having these problems now. It is true that there are many couples who find that even though they have made it through difficult times in the past, they eventually get to a point where problems really start to pile up. Sometimes it’s just too hard to keep putting things back together and working hard at communication and other related issues. If so, give yourself a break. You’re still young with plenty of time to try again.
You both put the needs of your family first. It might seem like an obvious thing to say, but you make decisions based on what is best for everyone involved in your family unit. This is how a family stays together. It’s the little things that count such as helping each other around the house, getting your kids where they need to be, and helping out when someone is sick. These are all signs that your marriage is working.
There is no one-time telltale sign that automatically means that your marriage is broken. Instead, there are several things to look for. Keep in mind, though, that even if your marriage is showing signs of a broken relationship, this doesn't mean it's time to take extreme measures. These steps should be looked at as a way to bring balance back into the relationship and assess whether or not the marriage can work out.
1. You feel like you're being taken advantage of. A sign of a broken marriage may happen when you feel like your spouse has taken advantage of you in some way or another and they use it against you when they want something from you (e.g. you feel like your spouse is saying "We need to go out on a date, so I will do it this way and you will come with me or else").
2. You live apart. A broken marriage may result in you not living together (this is one of the most common signs of a broken marriage). This is because one or both partners may feel that the relationship has become too difficult and they may want to move on with their lives. There are many reasons why people break up after living together, including job responsibilities, children, family matters, and other issues. However, if you're seeing your spouse less and less it may be time to start talking about ending the relationship.
3. You're spending too much time apart. Another common sign of a broken marriage maybe if you start to spend more and more time away from each other, even if you're not living together. If this happens during a marriage, it may be a sign that the relationship isn't working out anymore.
4. You can't communicate effectively. As a couple, you may find that it's difficult to talk to each other (or even worse, you feel like there is nothing left to say). This is an indication that your relationship has taken a turn for the worse in terms of how well you communicate with one another.
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